Advice: It takes courage to be a grown-up

Adult life can really suck sometimes. I was trying to come up with a better word, but there isn’t one that conveys the life shattering things we sometimes have to deal with in life.

Cancer, Alzheimer’s, losing a loved one, horrible accidents, fires that leave families without homes, tornadoes, hurricanes, losing your job, or getting a divorce. The list is long and endless.

Getting through life takes courage and will power. You have to really work at being happy and looking for the positive, and not dwell on the bad stuff.

Life is a long rollercoaster ride and the secret to making it to the end in one piece is learning how to lean into the curves, and breathe calmly through the rough turns.

Accepting that it won’t be easy, and valuing the moments of happiness is the only way to get through life. Those calm wonderful patches of happy moments are what carry you through the rough patches.

Some people waste their time worrying about things that aren’t important, only to realize later that they lived the best part of life and didn’t even appreciate it.

Sometimes we only focus on what we don’t have or what we haven’t achieved, and we never acknowledge how far we have come.

Goals are important, but not if they keep you from appreciating and enjoying life. Some people achieve a promotion, a degree, or a milestone and immediately go to the next thing.

They live life running a marathon and never reach the end. They are always focused on what they haven’t accomplished, instead of stopping to give thanks and enjoy what they have.

It’s important to achieve goals, but it’s more important to know how to receive the blessings once you receive them.

At the end of your life the things that will matter have nothing to do with the awards hanging on your wall or how much money you have in the bank.

What matters are the relationships you have cultivated in your life. The memories of the moments you have shared with your family and friends. The kindness you have shown others and the example you leave behind.

Don’t lose sight of your priorities and learn to appreciate the things that matter. So that when you are dealing with the difficult moments of life, your heart will be at peace.

Maria Luisa Salcines is a freelance writer, and certified parent coach with The International Network for Children and Families in Redirecting Children’s Behavior and Redirecting for a Cooperative Classroom.