Advice: ‘Even bad days can have wonderful moments’

Family life isn’t always fun.

Sometimes you fall into ruts — moments when everyone is in a bad mood, tired and feeling overwhelmed.

Kids need to understand that it’s OK not to be happy all the time; that life isn’t one big party where everything is fun. They need to learn how to be happy in spite of the not-so-perfect moments.

We will all have bad days. How we deal with those days is what determines the quality of life we lead.

Even bad days can have wonderful moments. Knowing how to acknowledge these moments will help you deal with it.

Parents need to set the example and model how to move forward with grace and a positive attitude.

When your family life is in a funk, odds are that you have created it. Parents are the ones that regulate the attitude barometer at home.

If you are constantly whining and complaining, your children will do the same. It’s difficult to get things done when everyone is in a bad mood.

Next time you are having a bad day, instead of being short with your children, talk to them about it.

Sharing how you feel lets them understand why you are not yourself, and it teaches your children how to talk about their problems.

On those days when everything seems to be going wrong, be sure to connect with your children. Hug them. Hugs give comfort.

Knowing that you are loved and supportive can make a huge difference.

It’s also important that your home be a “safe zone” — a place where everyone can share their feelings.

Changing your routine can also help improve a bad day. Let your kids do their homework on the patio. Have dinner there, too.

Life is never simple. It seems like you solve one problem only to find yourself dealing with something else.

To live a happy life, you have to learn how to enjoy the in between moments of peace.

You have to develop a positive attitude and learn how to deal with it, and move forward.

Maria Luisa Salcines is a freelance writer, and certified parent coach with The International Network for Children and Families in Redirecting Children’s Behavior and Redirecting for a Cooperative Classroom.

Follow her on Twitter @ PowerOfFamily, Instagram mlsalcinespoweroffamily or contact her on her blog FamilyLifeAndFindingHappy.com.