Advice: Loving your loved ones

It’s not uncommon for us to be impatient and angriest with those closest to us.

Being able to let loose and be yourself at home is great, but you should never abuse the support and love shown to you by your family.

We are so intertwined with family members that sometimes we forget to be respectful of their feelings and have less compassion for them than we have with acquaintances.

If you want your children and spouse to treat you with respect and kindness, you must treat them the same way.

When you are tired and stressed out, instead of lashing out at your children or your spouse, share what you are feeling.

Home should be a place where family members unite and support each other.

Letting your loved ones know you had a lousy day at work or that you have a headache will bring you closer than yelling at them for leaving dishes in the sink.

Your behavior toward your family sets an example. Bad habits can disrupt the flow of your household and affect the whole family.

Next time you are going to complain about your children or yell at your spouse, pause and ask yourself: “Is my anger and criticism going to help the situation?”

Complaining, nagging and yelling at your children will not change their behavior. However, asking with kindness and treating them with love and respect will motivate them to remember next time.

Home should not be a battle zone.

Model the change you seek in your home. Say thank you often and mean it. Acknowledge the good things your family members do and this will bring out more of the positive behavior you are looking for.

We all have bad days, so when you notice someone in your family is not feeling well show compassion.

Being kind and showing your love toward others brings joy, and it only takes a matter of seconds.

Maria Luisa Salcines is a freelance writer, and certified parent coach with The International Network for Children and Families in Redirecting Children’s Behavior and Redirecting for a Cooperative Classroom. Follow her on Twitter @PowerOfFamily, Instagram mlsalcinespoweroffamily or contact her on her blog FamilyLifeandFindingHappy.com.