Advice: Give him the credit he deserves

It always amazes me when women who have loving and hardworking husbands choose to focus on the insignificant things they do wrong.

No one is perfect, and finding fault in the little things he doesn’t do, instead of appreciating what he does for your family, will push a man away emotionally.

Men are better husbands and fathers when what they do for their families is acknowledged.

Most men are messy and forget where things go in the kitchen. They sometimes say the wrong things or don’t know how to handle a child’s tantrum. They don’t listen, especially when they are watching a football game.

When you put your husband down and complain about something he forgot to do. When you talk about him behind his back with your girlfriends. When you don’t show interest in the things he likes. When you are unkind to his parents or your stepchildren, you are sabotaging your relationship.

Finding a loving, honest, loyal, hardworking man is very rare these days.

Stop complaining and start acknowledging the amazing man and father your children have.

And if there are things he needs to learn to be a better husband or father, lovingly teach him how to improve. Don’t assume that he will just know what to do. Tell him what you need and why, and more than likely he will cooperate.

Men show their love by protecting and providing for their family. Your husband might not be the most romantic man in the world, but if he is home every night and his life revolves around you and your children, you are a lucky woman.

Is he perfect? Probably not, but neither are you.

So next time, instead of complaining about your husband, ask yourself what you can do for him.

From experience I can tell you that the more you appreciate and love him the more you will get back.

Happy Father’s Day to my husband, my dad, my brother and my sons. And to all the men who are working diligently to be good fathers, thank you for all you do.

Maria Luisa Salcines is a freelance writer, and certified parent coach with The International Network for Children and Families in Redirecting Children’s Behavior and Redirecting for a Cooperative Classroom. Follow her on Twitter @PowerOfFamily, Instagram mlsalcinespoweroffamily or contact her on her blog FamilyLifeandFindingHappy.com.