Advice: Spend more quality time at home

A perfect week for me is spending three to four days without having to leave the house, where I am at my happiest.

As a child being home with my family made me feel safe, especially during those first few years after we emigrated from Cuba.

Home was a haven, a place where I didn’t have to speak English or eat the American food that I was served at lunch.

There is something about being home — the smell, the sounds and the emotions connected to the familiar — that have always brought me peace.

You can’t control what happens to your children outside of your home, but you can make sure they feel loved and cared for while in the house.

When you provide a loving and safe home for your children, it is like wrapping them up in a security mantel that they will carry with them wherever they go.

Every one of our homes has a familiar scent. Maybe it’s the candles we light, or the food we cook, but those smells have a way of bringing up childhood memories.

Families today live hectic lives. Homes today are more like launching pads. Family members come and go, but memories don’t seem to be made like they used to.

Some children, today, treat being at home as some sort of punishment, or may complain that it’s boring. Weekends always seem to be about doing something.

It’s fun for children to have activities outside of their homes, but make enough time for your family to connect with each other similar to previous generations.

When was the last time your family spent the day just hanging out at home?

These small moments are what life is about. These silly, carefree incidents from our childhood are what create long-lasting memories.

Make time for an afternoon card game. Get up late on a Sunday and stay in your pajamas all day. Feel free to cuddle on the coach for a Netflix marathon.

I coach parents all the time to slow down and spend more time doing nothing.

Allow your family to disconnect from the outside world for a few days. Once you do this, you will realize how much you needed it.

This summer, let your children rest. You might be surprised at how much more cooperative and well behaved they will be.

Maria Luisa Salcines is a freelance writer, and certified parent coach with The International Network for Children and Families in Redirecting Children’s Behavior and Redirecting for a Cooperative Classroom. Follow her on Twitter @PowerOfFamily, Instagram mlsalcinespoweroffamily or contact her on her blog FamilyLifeandFindingHappy.com.