Advice: Graduation is about reflection, watching your children grow

My niece is now a high school graduate and on her way to Baylor.

Once again, I find myself looking back astonished by how time flies. She was born on Father’s Day 18 years ago, which doesn’t seem like it was that long ago.

Graduations make me emotional. There is something about a room filled with the hopeful dreams of young people that creates an energy unlike any other experience.

When you’re registering your child for kindergarten it feels like you have so much time. And then you blink, and you find yourself watching your son or daughter drive off to college.

Suddenly, your house is quiet, no more slamming doors or crazy schedules, or weekends filled with kids raiding your refrigerator at midnight.

My niece’s graduation reminded me of an incident with our younger son. A few months after he had left for college, I received a package from him. Because my birthday was a week away, I thought it was a birthday present.

I became teary-eyed as I opened the package because I thought he had remembered my birthday.

Once I opened the box, I discovered it was the new shirt I had bought for him before he left and a button taped to a piece of paper where he had scribbled, “Mom, please sew this button back on the shirt. Thank you, Love C.”

The beauty of your children going to college is that they start appreciating the things you’ve done for them and begin to view their childhood through a different set of eyes.

For the parents of the class of 2019, your child may be leaving but they will always be a part of your life. One of the most rewarding stages of life is when you realize your adult children have grown up and become your friends.

Maria Luisa Salcines is a freelance writer, and certified parent coach with The International Network for Children and Families in Redirecting Children’s Behavior and Redirecting for a Cooperative Classroom. Follow her on Twitter @PowerOfFamily, Instagram mlsalcinespoweroffamily or contact her on her blog FamilyLifeandFindingHappy.com.