Advice: Sometimes you need to take a pause

I wish learning to pause was a mandatory class in elementary. Teaching a child how to pause before he or she responds to an aggressive classmate, or to take a deep breath before they take an exam, would be a helpful tool they could use in life.

I deal with so many issues in my parent coaching sessions that couples could have avoided if they had not said things in anger.

We live in an over-stimulating environment that affects our peace of mind and we try to sustain a pace that isn’t realistic.

Even at home, when you are relaxing you are hearing the humming sound of the refrigerator, a fan, a car horn down the street, your neighbor cutting his lawn, the sound of your children in the other room or your dog barking.

These sounds can’t be avoided, but they are also reasons we feel overwhelmed.

When my husband and I go to our ranch for the weekend, a feeling of peace and calm comes over us and we sleep more than usual.

This is when I realize how important taking a break from life is. When you pause, you gain clarity and it gives you energy and helps you gain perspective.

The following are three important tips that you can incorporate in your family life:

>> Take a deep breath before you respond to someone in anger. Remember to reflect, respect and respond with kindness rather than to react without thinking.

>> Take a moment to be grateful for your blessings. If you are always running full speed, you are like a freight train that will eventually derail. Make time to enjoy your life. Be present and spend time with those you love.

>> Take a break from your cell phone and social media. We are tuning out moments of life, instead of being present. Set limits for your children and spend time connecting with those you love.

Learning to incorporate the “pause” physically and mentally will help you lead a healthier and more peaceful life.

Maria Luisa Salcines is a freelance writer and certified parent coach. Follow her on Twitter at @PowerOfFamily or on Instagram at @mlsalcines. You can also contact her on her blog,