Advice: Spend meaningful time with your children

Some children are good communicators and will let you know what they are thinking or feeling. Then there are children who have a difficult time talking about their worries.
When a child is worried or hurt by something and doesn’t know how to deal with a situation, his or her behavior may change. Mood swings, temper tantrums, depression, and anxiety can all be the result of avoiding issues.

It’s important parents spend time with their children so they can detect when something is wrong.

Life is hectic and the time parents spend with their children is often in a car driving them to and from activities. Although this provides an opportunity to talk to your children, some kids need more time than a quick car ride to share their feelings.

Children need to know that they are not alone and that they can come to you with their problems. Even when they make a mistake, they need to know they can count on you.
When your child comes to you with a problem, listen and empathize with your child.

Some children stop sharing when you ask questions, and once they stop talking it’s difficult to get them to open up again.

Shy children struggle talking about their feelings. Sometimes they lack the confidence to speak up.

If you have a child like this, it is important that you help them develop his or her voice so that they learn to speak up.

When children have done something wrong and they are worried about your reaction, they tend not to share.

However, if you have built a connection with them they will be more likely to share their concerns with you.

We live in a world where children are exposed to things way before they are ready to handle them.

More than ever, parents must ensure that they establish a strong connection early in their relationship so that their child feels comfortable coming to them.

You don’t want your children asking others for advice or looking for it on the Internet.
In order to recognize how your children act when they are sad or worried, you have to understand them. And the only way to do this is by spending time with your children.
Be present and make every moment you spend with them count.

Maria Luisa Salcines is a freelance writer and certified parent coach with The International Network for Children and Families in Redirecting Children’s Behavior and Redirecting for a Cooperative Classroom. Follow her on Twitter at @PowerOfFamily and/or on Instagram at @mlsalcines. You can also contact her on her blog FamilyLifeandFindingHappy.com.