Advice: Grumpy old people were grumpy young people

MARIA LUISA SALCINES | SPECIAL TO THE MONITOR

If at a young age you complain, whine, or are moody and judgmental, chances are you will be that way as you get older.

We have all met people who act and look younger for their age. A recent study took MRI brain scans of elderly people who felt younger than their age and found that their brains showed fewer signs of aging.

So, feeling young and thinking young can actually make your brain healthier.
Not to say life doesn’t come with difficult situations. How you deal with those problems will determine your happiness.

It’s important to look for positives and not allow tough times rob you of your joy.
Finding the silver lining is a cliché, but the hope and belief that better things will come improves the quality of life.

The following are a few of the things I have learned along the way:

>> The world is changing and you must change with it. Learn to use the latest technology. Take classes and take advantage of every opportunity to experience something you have never tried before.

>> Don’t fear the future. Embrace it. Savor it. Live every moment with gusto.

>> Every time you feel like saying “no,” say “yes.” Don’t get lazy or too comfortable doing the same thing over and over again.

>> Don’t isolate yourself from family and friends. Having your friends, your children and grandchildren around will fill your life with joy.

>> In order to identify with the younger generation, you have to understand their world. Follow your kids on Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook and Twitter. Communicate through Marco Polo. Watch their movies and listen to their music.

The more you understand the world the younger generation lives in the more connected you will be to them.

>> Don’t be the kind of old person that spends their time complaining. Your aches and pains will be there whether you talk about them or not. Find things to do. That will help you

focus on other things, not just how you are feeling.

You want your children and grandchildren to want to be around you, not avoid you.
Life doesn’t stop as you age; the secret is learning to take things as they come and by enjoying every moment.

Maria Luisa Salcines is a freelance writer and certified parent coach with The International Network for Children and Families in Redirecting Children’s Behavior and Redirecting for a Cooperative Classroom. Follow her on Twitter at @PowerOfFamily or Instagram at @mlsalcines. You can also contact her on her blog, FamilyLifeandFindingHappy.com.