Advice: Life is not picture perfect

Life is messy and complicated no matter how well you plan.

Getting through life is learning how to handle disappointments and coming to the realization that perfection doesn’t exist. I guarantee you that you are not the only messy disaster, who is distracted and overwhelmed.

Most people are figuring things out as they go. No one is an expert, no one knows if what he or she is doing is going to work out. Everyone is just hoping and living with faith that they chose the right life partner, their kids will turn out OK or their career path is the right one.

If someone tells you that they never feel flawed, confused, sad or stressed out, they are lying.

Adult life is filled with doubts and worries. If you expect everything to be perfect, you keep yourself from enjoying what you have.

The only way to get through life is learning to be patient with the process. It’s trusting God and having faith that things will work out. It’s doing your best without putting yourself down when you make a mistake.

When you spend your time trying to achieve the perfect life, you will never be satisfied because you never take the time to enjoy the moment.

A good life is recognizing joy even when things are complicated. It’s the love you feel when your children give you a hug. It’s dancing around the kitchen to your favorite song. It’s being handed a cup of coffee by your husband when you walk in the kitchen.

Happiness is about allowing yourself to celebrate the everyday triumphs you experience that fill your life with love. It’s recognizing your blessings, instead of criticizing your life.

Your messy house, unruly dog, forgetful husband and annoying teenage son are what makes your life meaningful.

What you need to strive for is doing your best. You need to learn to ask for help and let your family know when you are struggling.

Stop comparing yourself to others and stop worrying. Celebrate the blessings you have and appreciate every imperfect moment of your life.

Maria Luisa Salcines is a freelance writer and certified parent educator with The International Network for Children and Families in Redirecting Children’s Behavior and Redirecting for a Cooperative Classroom. Follow her on Twitter at @PowerOfFamily or on Instagram at @mlsalcines. You can contact her on her blog,