Advice: Attitude is everything when overcoming life’s obstacles

BY MARIA LUISA SALCINES

Every thought you have creates the belief you have about yourself. The longer you think a certain way the more that becomes your reality.

When you complain, you cloud your brain with negativity and drain your energy.

One of the most important things you can model for your children is how to deal with challenges in a positive way.

Discussing with your children how you are handling a situation is a great teaching strategy.

When children learn positive coping skills they will be able to bounce back from difficulties.

No one goes through life without overcoming difficult moments. What determines your happiness is how well you learn to navigate through your problems.

When your child is dealing with a difficult issue, acknowledge his or her feelings and discuss different ways your child can handle the situation.

Give your child the opportunity to solve his or her problems. This will help your child’s self-esteem and allow him or her to practice their coping skills.

Optimistic people are proactive. They don’t blame others for their problems. They take responsibility for their circumstances.

Waiting for other people to solve your problems is placing the responsibility on someone else. Everything you think and do, you control.

Your children need to learn that they have the choice to make changes when something is not working.

Life is like a long train ride filled with unexpected maintenance stops. You have to learn to hustle in order to figure out how to fix your engine.

The more experience you gain, the more cargo trains you add. When negative things happen, you can either allow them to take up space in your cargo train or you can choose to deal with it, and toss out what does not serve you.

Challenges change you; they make you stronger and propel you to live life differently. They are often the life lessons we need in order to become who we are meant to be.

Life requires constant tweaking and loads of courage.

Changing the way you look at obstacles — from saying, “I can’t deal with this,” to asking yourself, “what can I do” — forms an attitude that will facilitate a more positive outcome.

Teach your children how to enjoy the little things in life, and how to be grateful for their blessings.

When we focus on our blessings we realize that even during difficult times there can be moments of happiness.

Maria Luisa Salcines is a freelance writer and certified parent educator with The International Network for Children and Families in Redirecting Children’s Behavior and Redirecting for a Cooperative Classroom. Follow her on Twitter @PowerOfFamily or on Instagram @mlsalcines.