Respect your kids, don’t over share on social media

BY MARIA LUISA SALACINES

Most adults would agree that it isn’t cool to share pictures on social media that depict you in an unflattering moment.

When we are with friends and family, we should be able to let our hair down without worrying that an awkward picture will appear on social media.

The University of Michigan surveyed 331 pairs of parents and children and found that children don’t mind if their parents share family vacations, sports events, positive school accomplishments and happy family moments.

Posting pictures of them having a tantrum, however, recording siblings when they are arguing, or taking a picture of your children when they are sleeping with their mouth open is not cool.

Parents need to be mindful of what they post and respect their children’s feelings.

Home is supposed to be a safe place where you can be yourself and be able to be silly, or make a mistake without being judged and blasted on social media.

An occasional post about a cute comment your child makes is harmless, but a weekly post about the issues you are having with your child is not a good idea.

Your goal as a parent is to ensure your children continue to share their lives with you as they get older. If you don’t respect their privacy and share too much, you will sever the parent-child relationship.

Social media is an amazing way to stay connected. I enjoy seeing pictures of vacations, graduations, weddings, and the interesting activities that my friends and family are up to.

A lot of my friends are becoming grandparents and there is nothing like a picture of a cute baby to brighten your day.

It’s also a great way to send prayers and good wishes to our friends and loved ones when they are dealing with difficult situations.

There is a line, however, that should not be crossed. Even those that love you do not need to know every single detail of your life.

A study at the University of Michigan found that younger parents ages 27 to 39 share more often than older parents ages 40 to 76. And that older parents ages 50 to 76 believe and actively asked their children permission before posting.

Lead author Carol Moser, a doctoral student at the University of Michigan’s School of information found during the study that most children don’t mind if their parents post not just about their achievements, but of information that reflects a happy home life.

Before you press that post button think about what you are putting out there. Share your life, but do it mindful of the feelings of those you love.

Maria Luisa Salcines is a freelance writer, and certified parent educator with The International Network for Children and Families in Redirecting Children’s Behavior and Redirecting for a Cooperative Classroom. Follow her on Twitter @PowerOfFamily or on Instagram at mlsalcines. You can also contact her on her blog at FamilyLifeandFindingHappy.com.